The Quest for the Ultimate Test:
To discover who you really, truly are.
a company advertises for a graduate or professional in Turkey up to 4000
individuals may apply. Understandably
this creates a niche for others to develop Human Resource businesses that exist
to filter applicants using a range of personality assessment tools.
in the answers correctly to such tests becomes a useful skill to acquire.
Indeed another niche must exist for those who may effectively train
aspirants to provide the right answers.
In England when I was 10 my school certainly helped me in this way.
For the year prior to taking the 11+ Examination I would be faced with
examples of this kind of question.
fill in the blank in the example below : -
A is to C and B is to D then ____ is to E.
was supposed to measure my intelligence (I.Q.) so that adults could decide if I
should receive education to prepare me to become a professional such as a
doctor, teacher or bank clerk, or if instead I would become a plumber, labourer
or shop assistant.
seemed nonsense at the time and remains nonsense now.
Incredibly adults still feel that belonging to a profession provides a
better quality of life than having a trade.
This reminds me of a story.
plumber presented his bill to a psychologist.
The psychologist exclaimed:
you charging me £100 an hour for your time?
That’s more than I charge as a psychologist”.
plumber replied: “Yes I also charged less when I was a psychologist.”
adults were not thinking of us as children, but of how society could best use us
when we grew up. But we must
not blame adults for this attitude because like most adults their awareness
sleeps, hypnotised by a lifetime of conditioning.
Testing reinforces this conditioning.
The ability to provide approved answers to tests is recorded and accorded
status as to our inner lives, motor and spatial abilities. Incredibly we are supposed to believe these results and
conduct ourselves as if they are the truth.
I practiced as a psychotherapist, a colleague gave me a computer program that
would analyse 360 questions. It
would sift and sort the answers and produce a DSM III·
diagnosis. It would also evaluate
my clients’ work aptitude; and write something nice to flatter them in case
the other two reports were gloomy.
I tried it myself and was accorded some unfavourable diagnosis. But my clients fared better.
One in particular was, according to the test, so healthy and employable
that if I had had a vacancy I should have employed him on the spot.
sadly he constantly complained of premature hair loss, which was not apparent to
me. He also reported
visions of hell, blood and vomit when thinking of his self-image.
His nasty condition, known to psychiatry as hebephrenia, remained
undetected by the test. Had
the test posed the wrong questions, or had the patient provided the wrong
testing has gained status due in large respect to the writings of people such as
Daniel Goleman, Danah Zohar and Ian Marshall.
Goleman has popularised Emotional Intelligence (E.Q.), whereas Zohar and
Marshall claim that the only true intelligence is Spiritual Intelligence (S.Q.).
Intelligence is said to include self-awareness and impulse control, persistence,
zeal and motivation, empathy and social deftness.
These qualities apparently mark people who excel: whose relationships
flourish, and are stars in the workplace.
Importantly E.Q. is the basic requirement for the appropriate use of I.Q.
which is essentially the ability to match patterns, can be achieved in computer
robotics. E.Q. may be
conditioned into higher mammals such as dogs and dolphins.
Do you remember the 1970’s T.V. series ‘Flipper’ in which a dolphin
displayed emotional behaviours toward a family?
who object to the idea that E.Q. is related to conditioning delude themselves.
Goleman shows precisely how E.Q. can be nurtured and strengthened in all
of us. He also provides
detailed guidance as to how parents and schools may use E.Q. concepts to
‘sculpt the brain’s circuitry’.
Intelligence differs from I.Q. and E.Q. because it is thought to be a uniquely
human quality. It refers to
our need for meaning, vision and value.
It underlies the things we believe in and the role that our beliefs and
values play in the actions we take and how we shape our lives.
according to Intelligence Pundits I.Q., E.Q. and S.Q. can all be measured.
Assistance may then be applied to help people to remedy deficiencies in
the Turkish usage of testing is not remedial.
Like the 11+ examination of my youth testing is used as a filter, which
may well deprive those who most need help and compassion, from socially
enhancing work. I think tests
are often used in this way.
there is an even stronger argument against testing and the whole idea of
intelligence at all.
used to believe that life was like a journey, and that one progressed in
intelligence and awareness with the passage of time.
As a result I borrowed some concepts from Abe Maslow, Deepak Chopra, The
Kabbalah and Yoga Psychology and produced the QuietQuality™ table below.
Seven alternative ways to Fulfilment
[Copyright 2000 Stephen Bray with acknowledgement to Abraham Maslow and Deepak Chopra]
You fulfil your life through family, community, a sense of
belonging, and material possessions.
Precipitation: Drama, arousal, danger and rescue.
You fulfil your life through comparisons with others in terms
of: success, power, influence, status and a sense of personal identity.
Precipitation: Specialised skills in music, sport,
entrepreneurship and academic achievement.
QuietQuality™: (Restful Awareness)
You fulfil your life through self-acceptance, presence, and
Precipitation: Premonitions, knowing what to do and when to
do it, lucky co-incidences.
Insight: (Understanding and Forgiveness)
You fulfil your life through understanding that others are
different from how you choose to be accepting them for who they are and learning
by experiencing the differences.
Precipitation: True friendships and prophetic powers.
You fulfill your life through creativity, experimentation and
openness to learning.
Precipitation: The ability to express original ideas that
Vision: (Reverence and Compassion)
Your self-acceptance and self-knowledge enable you to revere
life and cause you to do your best to serve and preserve it.
Precipitation: Thinking outside of the current paradigm,
taking part in miraculous occurrences by witnessing them in an altered state of
You experience life directly, as ‘It’ is without
‘whistles and bells’ and the need to be or do anything.
Precipitation: The ability to take life as it comes knowing
and doing what’s necessary whilst stating the obvious, when asked.
When I developed this table I, like Goleman, Marshall and
Zohar, believed that people could be trained to develop themselves beyond
survival and competition into the higher regions of human experience.
But this is an illusion because nothing gets trained to do anything,
it’s all in the mind!
Now this paragraph is very important.
Life is not a journey, or a rehearsal, or a network of relationships, or
whatever other banal or complex metaphor you want to use.
Life is not a competition; it is not discovery, enlightenment or
goodness. Life is not
possession, health, values, education or potential.
There is nothing more that you need to learn, have or know other than to
recognise who you are right now. Life
transcends understanding. You
are life. Forget your personal history, nationality, religion,
social status, body, mind, personality you’re not any of those even if all of
them reside within you.
By the way I am not exhorting some ‘lose your mind and come
to your senses’ insanity. Please
don’t remove all your clothes and rush around naked in the street, or if you
do it’s your responsibility and nothing to do with me. All I am saying is Marshall, Zohar, and Jung and Frankl
before them are wrong. We
do not need to seek meaning in order to be Spiritually Intelligent. Instead we need to wake-up!
up means dropping our conditioning rather than acquiring more conditioning to
get us somewhere. Right now
you are where you have always been and that is nowhere.
Your outer circumstances may appear to have changed over time.
Your behaviour may appear to have been manipulated or controlled by
forces seemingly beyond your control.
But who you really are cannot be conditioned.
Nor can it be tested for truly you are beyond space, and therefore
don’t need self-help, development, nurturing, workshops, psychotherapy, a guru
or teacher in order to awaken. Certainly
you won’t need any kind of assessment or test to inform you of some inadequacy
and convince you to change something that the test has recognised, but you have
if you are a parent you particularly don’t need to harass your child if they
cannot decide if a banana is more like the letter A, the letter Z or the letter
C. Who cares?
take all the tests you want, and attend all those fashionable courses and
expensive trainings if you like. It
really doesn’t matter.
where does this leave you? You
must choose whether you think of yourself as an O.K. person in a God-awful
world, or a God-awful person in an O.K. world.
Be careful to answer correctly for your Spiritual Intelligence is
at stake if you fail this test J
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was born in Dorset and educated at Blandford Grammar School, and
Universities in Plymouth, Manchester, Santa Cruz and London. He currently lives in Istanbul. Trained in the arts of dynamic therapy, family therapy, gestalt,
process oriented psychology and NLP, he now spends his time supporting those who wish to help others. Details of his work and his contact information may be found at www.quietquality.com